Vrooooom!
Buahaha! I’m on a roll. Avant-Garde and Breathings Of The Heart both have brand new shiny layouts :D! Yeah, yeah, yeah.
A girl in year twelve died yesterday. It’s quite scary. I didn’t know her, but I’ve heard of her, and it’s pretty shocking to know that someone you’ve probably seen a lot during school hours doesn’t exist any more. So, of course, there are counsellors and such to help her friends from school through it. I heard it when I went to our literature holiday class. There was only about six people there. One of the other students has a habit of not keeping her damn mouth shut, so there was enough talking for about twenty students anyway ;).
It’s funny what perspective can do. I was talking to a friend the other day, and we both came to the conclusion that “Everything depends,”. Everything depends on everything else. Which reminds me of the film I ♥ Huckabees now. But it’s true! For example, opinionated can be viewed in lots of different ways. Some people would say pushy. Some would say, well, opinionated. And some people would say that they aren’t capable of shutting up. It all depends on perspective. I find it incredibly fascinating :D. I could make a whole list on different things that can be viewed in many different lights, but I won’t. I will, however, say that nice, kind etc. can be viewed as ass kissage, sarcasm or just… Being nice. Funny, isn’t it.
To everyone who thinks life sucks- It doesn’t. I feel like singing that Beatles song. All you need is love, love / Love is all you need! Some of my friends have been feeling down in the dumps lately, and they seem to forget that people do care.
It also kind of frustrates me that people think spreading love is out of their reach, just because they don’t have a high position in society. Who cares if you’re just a teenage high school student? Who cares if you’re failing every class? You don’t have to be Oprah or Bono to make a difference. It doesn’t take much to make people around you happier. Compliment a stranger on their choice of fashion. Tell a friend how much you appreciate them. Give someone a big warm hug. Heck, even though you can’t fix all of the worlds problems just by being that much kinder, you can stop being part of the worlds problems and start contributing towards a solution.
I know that telling the local supermarket cashier that their hair looks good won’t cure deadly illnesses or put an end to war, but making someone’s day can have an impact on that one person, and it can be moved onto another person, and another, and another. It starts a chain. It doesn’t cost anything to tell someone how much you mean to them. It just takes a little time and effort, and it’s all for a good cause.
Just… Stop! Stop hating your old next door neighbour. Stop hurting people. Stop getting a twisted pleasure out of making someone else feel like shit. Stop snorting, smoking and injecting a plethora of substances, just to blur a reality you think you can’t deal with. Stop disregarding the fact that every damn thing you say has the ability to affect another human being. Stop thinking the world would be a better place if you were dead. Stop thinking that no one cares about you. Honestly, I wish I could sit everyone down who feels like they’re in a black hole and tell them how special and wonderful they are, and how much they’re loved. I wish I could.
This probably sounds odd coming from someone who seems to complain about everything when she gets the chance but, ultimately, I’m human. I have emotions. I feel.
So, please, stop thinking that no one cares! Because we do. I do.
(Many e-hugs and kisses from me. And hopefully many other people!)
♥
To set off the sombre mood of this post, I present to you the Big Scary Pigeon .gif!
(e-hugs and kisses again)
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Jae* Said,
October 3, 2007 @ 4:24 pm
Omg thats sooooo sad :sad:
Melinda Said,
October 3, 2007 @ 4:51 pm
RE: Jae*: Ehm, I don’t see anything really sad about that post. I wanted it to be more hopeful than sad! But, each to his own I guess.
Aisling Said,
October 3, 2007 @ 7:23 pm
I know what you mean about seeing someone often, and then how weird it is to know they no longer exist. A boy who was in my grade at school passed away recently. I didn’t know him well, I had only met him a few times, but he was my drama teacher’s son, and I was quite close with my drama teacher, being one of those ‘theatre-types,’ and all. I went to his funeral, and he seemed so great, and I regretted not getting to know him when he was alive.
So, I agree that we have to use the time we have to accomplish as much as we can, and just make the world generally sweeter with our presence and good intentions. :)
Emz Said,
October 4, 2007 @ 3:17 pm
No one I have memories of has ever died - so I can never relate to ‘that’ feeling. Lucky in one sense, never having to deal with death, but ultimately, I’m worried how it will affect me when it does happen to someone I know.
I hope the death of ‘the girl’ hasn’t affected anyone too badly. I honestly can’t imagine the situation.
Everything is relative to everything else! It’s shocking!
And its true. Every one single human does just need a little love and caring, and it’s not a hard thing to provide. Say please and thanks, compliment, admire, appreciate - little things that can make a huge difference to one person’s day.
Sara Said,
October 4, 2007 @ 3:49 pm
This is such a positive post. Some people from my high school have died as well… Most of them in car crashes. Their friends post pictures in the hallways and I’ve seen some of their graves. It’s horribly confusing and scary so I can understand why you feel that way.
Btw, I have a feeling you’re going to be bookmarked too *-*
Jaleesa Said,
October 5, 2007 @ 3:47 pm
I wish I could be that optimistic but around here if you give someone a compliment they really won’t trust you afterwards. I don’t even bother with them anymore. It’s just not worth it to love everybody because nobody except people who care equally about you will appreciate that. Love takes up a lot of energy and I feel you have to be selective about who you show it to to keep you from burning up energy.
Meli Said,
October 5, 2007 @ 8:55 pm
That happened in my school as well… except it was in eighth grade, and the girl was my best friend. It really made me mad at the time, because nobody really knew her or liked her, and yet they all pretended that they were deeply affected and sad… when the day before, they were laughing at her clothes or teasing her for reading Harry Potter all through lunch (back when HP was still a NERD thing). It took me a while before I realized that they WERE affected, because they realized how frail life is, and how you never have a chance to go back and fix the people you’ve hurt.
I agree. Stop hating. We’re all humans. We’re all on this earth for such a short time… let’s stop making that time MISERABLE!
Mahala Said,
October 6, 2007 @ 2:26 pm
The world needs more Melinda♥
But, oh wow. That’s really scary. Every few years someone dies at my school, and I just don’t know how to feel, because I’ve never met them. It’s sad, but it’s just odd. But during the summer between grade school and high school, one of the people I went to grade school with killed himself. We never talked, but I saw him. Every day. And I saw him that day, too. It’s just so weird, it’s just.. bah.
But, you’re right! Maybe we can’t save the world! But at least we can make someone’s day!! Woo!! That pigeon thing made me laugh, though ^_^ The for sure made MY day =P
(Olivia) Said,
October 9, 2007 @ 5:32 am
Cool lays
Hmm… I wonder what that girl died from.
Yes, we live in a very relative world.
Actually some people’s lives do suck, but they can do things to make it better (besides sitting around hating the world, and feeling sorry for their self). This is a nice post :)
lmao @ that .gif…that’s so wrong!
Kate Said,
October 9, 2007 @ 3:49 pm
Wow, that’s mind-boggling that someone who has always been around, maybe not personally close to you, but still you see a lot, is just, gone.
But that was very inspirational, what you said about spreading the love, even with the smallest things. :star:
Melinda Said,
October 9, 2007 @ 11:37 pm
RE: Mahala: I found out that the girl who died actually killed herself, too :sad: . It really is very scary, isn’t it.
Caherine Said,
October 11, 2007 @ 3:40 am
You brought a tear to my eye *tear rolling down cheeck*
Caherine Said,
October 11, 2007 @ 5:51 pm
I fixed the CSS thing.
Catherine Said,
October 11, 2007 @ 5:52 pm
hehe, I spelled my own name wrong. Sorry.
Musme Said,
October 11, 2007 @ 9:02 pm
It’s hard to know that someone you might have seen often is gone. It’s hard and sad. Unbelievable @ times. My sisters’ friend passed away about a month and a half ago. I didn’t know him, but it hit me hard to know a 16 was gone. It’s just so shocking.
Kaylee Said,
October 12, 2007 @ 12:29 pm
I always try to smile at strangers and say “Have a nice day” to anyone I interact with. It makes me feel better inside :Xtongue:
I agree with you; the small things matter, too.
Monica Said,
October 13, 2007 @ 12:28 pm
One of my friends from school died when I was 12 too, so I know how they feel. :sad:
Angela Said,
October 14, 2007 @ 12:53 pm
You’re right.. it does “all depend” on perspective. Things are always viewed differently “depending” on who is doing the viewing. lol..
I agree with you 100% on everything you said in this blog. I wish more people had that same outlook/view that you do. I try to do nice things for people.. random things just BECAUSE. It’s a good feeling to make someone else feel good. Some people just don’t get that.
Holly Said,
October 14, 2007 @ 10:43 pm
Lol, I know YOU are supposed to comment on ME through Despair, but I visited you anyway and REALLY like this post, it’s so true! :P
Big Scary Pigeon is…scary, though! :O
Ann Said,
October 15, 2007 @ 8:14 am
Its definately really hard to lose someone you see on a regular basis, even if you don’t even know them well. I went to high school with a girl who committed suicide 3 years ago. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through in my life. P.S. I admire you for having such a positive outlook in life.
Kristen Said,
October 17, 2007 @ 7:50 am
I had thought it said a girl age twelve died, and was all omg. But year twelve, just as bad :( Its sad. I hope everything at school gets okay.
Pat Said,
October 19, 2007 @ 1:43 am
I’m sorry about that girl. It makes me really sad when such young people die.
And I agree with you. If we loved more and hated less, the world will be a much better place. But I guess it won’t happen :(
Tiffany Said,
October 19, 2007 @ 2:33 pm
Amen! I wish more people would realize that someone does care. Even if it’s just one person, that could mean the world to the other person!
I definitely agree also that just saying something nice to someone could make their day! A girl told me she liked me necklace “a lot” the other day and it made me feel good. I’m not sure why, but it did lol.
“Honestly, I wish I could sit everyone down who feels like they’re in a black hole and tell them how special and wonderful they are, and how much they’re loved. I wish I could.” I feel the same way! I’m like that a lot when I see younger people (read: kids & teenagers) hating themselves or their lives. I wish I could be a friend to them and tell them that they are beautiful and LIFE is beautiful.
Mahala Said,
October 20, 2007 @ 9:39 am
Hey Melindaa!! I’m just stopping by to let you know that voting has started in my LOTM!! =D Good luck!!
morgan Said,
October 21, 2007 @ 1:15 am
Wow… I totally agree. If we did all of which you stated, we’d have world peace.
Sure, it won’t cure deadly illnesses, but it might help lower the chances. You know, stress, all that jazz plays a part in your health, yes? Plus, you get that warm fuzzy feeling when you make someone smile. Haha, cliched, I know.
Kaz Said,
October 22, 2007 @ 12:18 pm
That must be so weird, seeing someone everyday or nearly and then suddenly they are gone. It is sad though. You are right though about stop the hating. I mean hate is such a strong word in itself. I don’t think I hate anyone really, I may dislike people but I don’t really think about them all the time. And yes people do care, it annoys me when people go, but no one cares about me.